This morning my yoga teacher put us into a very hard pose, and left us in it for a long time. When I was about ready to fall over and cry from exerting so much effort, she moved us into the next pose. My mind screamed, “Thank God!” And then I heard my awesome teacher say, “Enjoy the release.” And something in me woke up.
I knew that as part of the class she meant we should enjoy the experience of the physical release of the effort. Which her comment made me realize I did, immensely! My legs were now tingling rather than burning and it felt wonderful. But my teacher takes her physical yoga ideas into other areas of her life. Which tends to make me do the same. And I kept thinking about her words.
“Enjoy the release.” What a novel idea.
April has unarguably been the busiest month in my entire life. And yet amongst the whirlwind of activity we adopted a new dog from the pound. Jasmine.
When we brought her home I realized she wasn’t going to be satisfied with running around the back yard. That she would require lots of walks, and even runs on occasion. So, several mornings a week after dropping off the boys at school instead of rushing to work, (like I should have been) I’ve been heading to the park for a fast half hour or so trot with my ball of energy.
The first time I met Dallas she looked at me sideways, as if to say, “I’m not sure you are good enough for him.” I respected her immediately.
Dallas was Mark’s dog. She walked beside him step in step wherever he went. She laid under his desk when he worked, she sat at his feet at the dinner table.
The only time she wavered was when one of the boys dropped crumbs on the floor. But right after she gobbled them up she was right back with Mark. Until the day he died.
That morning, she was lying beside our bed. That day, I wondered if she knew he was gone. That night, I went outside to bring her in and there were tattered shreds of metal all over the yard. She had torn down a gutter and ripped it to pieces. She knew.
As we go into the fall season here in central Texas I’m reminded of how weather has affected mine and Mark’s lives.
The night before we were married there was a huge thunderstorm that rattled through our town. Mark, who was raised in Texas, barely noticed. But not me, I adore the storms. My best friend Tab, who is also from California, and I watched out the windows in wonder.
For me the excitement of the lightening and thunder were a sign of the excitement that was brewing as Mark and I got ready to join our lives together in marriage.
Mark would have turned 53 today if he had chosen to stay in his body. If you have read the book, you will understand how that is a bittersweet statement.
I woke up this morning and couldn't put my finger on why everything seemed a little gray even though the sun was shining brightly. I didn't remember it was Mark's birthday until the boys and I were eating breakfast and there had already been a few difficult 'mishaps'.
Mark's birthday has been on my mind off and on over the last few weeks and so my body knew and my subconscious knew, even though I didn't consciously acknowledge it.
A couple of weeks ago the boys and I took a trip to Hawaii. One morning after we finished our breakfast next to the pond with hammerhead sharks, we decided to take a stroll.
As we meandered our way down the path in front of our hotel we quickly realized that the path was coming to an end. There was a sharp drop-off of about three feet that went through a few bushes. And there was a sign. It said, “Warning, you are now leaving the property, enter at your own risk.”
My oldest, the ‘rules’ kid, said, “Mommy, we have to turn back.”
My youngest and I both smiled. I said, “We could go check out what is beyond the path?”
With a hint of fear but a definite glimmer in his eye my oldest said, “Are you sure?”
My answer was to start making my way down the drop-off.
About a week ago I made a very difficult decision, with Mark's blessing, to let our nanny go. She has been with us since Brannon was a baby, almost three years BEFORE Mark passed away. In many ways she has been the bridge that has connected the time when we had him with us, to now.
This decision was not taken lightly as it means more work for me, less input from other adults for the boys, less time for me to work, and the added emotional side of letting go of someone who has been like a family member, especially since Mark died.
When it hit me that it was time to tell her, there was a flooding of different emotions, sadness, fear, worry and even numbness. But as I worked through the details of how it would effect our lives the unexpected feeling of excitement grew within me.
Hi there beautiful amazing being,
I typically blog about something that has happened in my life, like Connor having a butterfly on his nose or Brannon asking me if we have any iron in the house during a thunderstorm. (He had heard the story of Benjamin Franklin and was concerned the house was going to get hit by lightening.)
But today, instead of talking about my first two children, I'm going to shamelessly promote my most recent child, and offer you a special gift for reading this blog.
In the last three months I have birthed something. It will help people have more peace, love and joy in their lives. It will help people open to the magic of this universe and their own light, and the light of their lost loved one's.
A few nights ago the boys and I were playing the game “Apples to Apples”. After the first hand we realized that you really need four players to make the game work right. So, we created a “Mr. Nobody” who would get a stack of cards and we would randomly draw their addition to the pile.
When the boys suggested this solution I thought maybe it would work. But I figured the cards that Mr. Nobody would be contributing to the game would be so far off base that we would know which were ‘his’ and he would lose for sure.
About a month ago I met a friend for coffee. The intention was to discuss his filming a video trailer for “The Gift Giver” book. We spent three and a half hours talking and only ten minutes were about the trailer…
So what happened?
Two minutes after we sat down he said, “So Jennifer, what is the ‘take away’ from your book?”
In the first instant I thought, “Jeez, there is so much in it I don’t know.” But then I heard the words come out of my mouth as if they had been waiting and waiting to be released.
“I want people who already believe that you can communicate with a lost loved one to feel supported, and I want those who don’t believe to move just one tiny step closer to believing.”